The most enduring and satisfying relationships are those that are based on a deeply rooted foundation of sharing and co-operation. Partners are encouraged to work as a perpetual team, and in most cases will end up sharing finances as well as living space.
This does not mean that a man can't go out for a weekend party with the boys once in a while, or that a woman can't have an exciting girls night out on the town – in fact the freedom afforded by open communication and shared respect allows for more individuality and personal liberty; there are no trust issues in healthy relationships because communication is always maintained. Compromise also entails the sharing of burdens and responsibility. While it is vital to discuss stresses (commonly, financial or sexual stresses), it is also vital to act upon them. If a spouse falls ill or becomes unable to draw a paycheque for whatever reason – it should not be held against them or used against them as an argumentative tool.
Rather, the husband or wife that is able to fill the gap should take charge and lead the way, working hard to fulfill the needs generated by this absence. This means, be extension, that selflessness (when the chips are down) is of utmost importance as a character trait when choosing a mate for long-term relationships or marriage. Careers may well be important, but if your relationship is not more important in the scheme of things – perhaps it is time to either move on, or consider casual dating.
Communication and compromise are the lynchpins of a successful, happy, and rewarding long-term relationship or marriage. Without these two key factors being implemented constantly, with both partners working as a team to ensure their mutual success, it is quite likely that a relationship is in for a rough ride.
